Avoid Going Out With the Same People While Online Dating

Today's Globe and Mail had an interesting article pertaining to Canadian online dating...two friends coincidentally meet the same men online, and one in particular is stirring up jealousy as he has continued to date one and not the other.  How horrifying would that be to learn you are shopping the same meat as your girlfriend?

Read the full article here.

Get outta the same dating pool!

Wow, what a small world! This can totally happen, especially if limiting one's self to the generic, mainstream online dating sites.   As a person who used to use the big ones like match.com and lavalife...I can say that the choice gets tired, and many are on both, or all major dating sites.

What increases your chances even more is having the same interests, and ticking the same boxes in profiles, and having the same  taste in men. (duh)

You can avoid this type of online date recycling by using sites that are off the beaten path. Plural.ca is a great example, free, and %100 Canadian online dating.

I'm not sure if boys care as much, but boys and girls, give the mainstream dating sites a rest! They are full of mainstream daters.  Yes, meeting unique people is still possible while online dating :-P

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5 Things Women Lie About on Their Online Dating Profiles

The online dating world is full of fibbers. We've already determined what men commonly lie about on their online dating profiles, but now its time to look at the ladies....

1. Weight:  Weight is a popular one for women to lie about on their profiles. Not-so-recent photos featuring a svelte internet love interest are often what leads possible suitors to the in-person meeting, aka first date. When in reality there are a few, or more, extra pounds than expected it makes it very awkward for the person who was misled. Often, when people meet for the first time one will scope from afar to determine if they will actually go through with the date....a trick used often by those who have been burned by misleading photos before.

2. "Natural" Beauty: Waking up next to a totally different person in the morning can be disappointing....and frightening. When the layers of make-up, fake lashes, hair pieces and Spanx come off, it can be transforming. Unfortunately there's usually no way to really tell how natural the beauty is until after the magical first date. Hopefully her spell is strong enough to keep the man around!

3. Age: This is common for both sexes...the lie is usually an attempt to pass as younger than they actually are.  If the date turns into a relationship eventually the true age will be found out (if the lie wasn't obvious enough to detect on the first date), so it could get real awkward down the path of love...

4. Marital/Relationship/Family Status: This also was on the male list of things to beware. If they drove an hour or longer to reach you, if there is evidence of kids in their vehicle, or a tan line on the ring finger these are obvious hints of their misleading status! That being said, having kids are cool, but being truthful is cooler.

5. Similar Interests/Overly Likeable: Some women are good at being just what the the man is looking for. I call these cameleon daters. Guys if you start dating someone that just happens to be into the same things you are and are mysteriously missing a pet peeves...prepare yourself for the real woman she is down the road...that is, if she even knows who she is yet.


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xo Forever,

Heather



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A Yummy Date Made in Mexico, Newmarket Ontario

When in the trenches of online dating, it is always a good idea to have some winner date spots in mind. For those of you who are Newmarket online dating I have found a fun and yummy date spot to take your internet love interest!

Made in Mexico Restaurant and Cantina is a Newmarket Main St. gem. The staff are friendly, the food is amazing, and the drink selection is plentiful...especially with a former resort bartender behind the bar!

 The authentic Mexican fare will blow you away, I know the Queso Fundido is fun to share and a must-try. The fish tacos were amazing - the Mexican coleslaw is especially of note.

Fish Tacos with Salad and Refried beans...that I couldn't wait to eat (whoops)

The menus is reasonably priced, so this is a great spot to show your date some authentic Mexican food without breaking the bank.
It was quite busy when I paid it a visit, so if you are planning on taking a date, especially during the weekend, I would recommend reservations.

 

Made in Mexico =LOVE!!

Happy online dating ;-)

xo Forever, 

Heather

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5 Things Guys Lie About on Their Online Dating Profiles

Going on a date with someone in person after meeting them through online dating is a nerve-wracking experience. When men get the green light to meet in person after passing the online chatting stage, it can be disappointing if you meet a completely different guy than what you were expecting!

Prepare yourself, ladies, these are the top things guys lie about on their online dating profiles!

1. Height: Being a relatively tall woman, I can tell straight away when a man misrepresented his height on his profile once we meet in person. I am 5'8" and if a guy claims to be 6'0" and is around my height or shorter...busted! I wonder if they actually think us ladies won't notice?!

2. Salary: If a man even mentioned his salary unprovoked (or makes reference to how loaded he is) most likely he is lying. Normally it will take longer than just the first date to call them out because the first couple dates they can put up a front with fancy dinners, etc. Men who actually make decent money normally don't feel the need to brag about it, so beware of the showoffs!

3. Marital/Family Status: Is he driving over an hour to meet you? Is there a tan line where a wedding band would sit on his finger? Those are the most obvious signs the position of 'his woman' is already taken. Did he neglect to mention children but there are signs of little ones in his vehicle? Beware of the dudes that aren't telling the whole truth about their home life. There is nothing wrong with having children, but at least be honest about it! As for those who lie about being tied down already....run, run away! They will do the same to you if you go down this path.

4. Age: For some reason men feel the need to cover their older age. Me, personally, I like the older dudes, so if someone lies to be younger they are shooting themselves in the foot twice over; a) because they are dishonest and b) because I like older men anyway! I know not all women share this fetish, but guys, seriously, we're going to find out sooner or later...that is, unless you are just planning on a fling. Take note, girls!

5. Their "Healthy" Lifestyle: Which boxes they tick indicating how much they smoke, drink, do drugs and exercise are all questionable. Often a "social drinker" will get completely shitfaced on the first date, or as the dating progresses how much they actually exercise and do drugs will become more apparent. There really is no polite way to call these dating dudes out on such matters, but there isn't a point either. Keep a keen eye open. If their healthy lifestyle they claimed proves to be untruthful, take him or leave him. Trying to change anyone = waste of time.

Happy Online Dating!

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Forever,

Heather


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Picking Up Your Date in Motorcycles, Convertibles and Other Fun Open Vehicles

 Last night driving with friends we saw a crazy little car(?) that was so small it looked like it was only big enough to fit the driver, who was a man. As we pulled up beside this absolute head-turner of a vehicle I noticed that it actually had two people riding in it, the second being a very nervous looking young lady who was holding onto the frame for all she was worth. Judging from the way she was dressed (and her faux grin) it appeared to be a date...quite possibly a first one.

This totally reminded me of the first person I met through online dating - he arrived for the first date on a motorcycle....I turned out to be my first motorbike ride!

Maybe you want to impress a hottie you met on an online dating website and you want to create the WOW factor for the first impression....but please think again.

Guys, this is why picking up your date without warning in a motorcycle, convertible, or other open vehicle is a NO NO!

• Our hair could get ruined: The aggressive wind from speeding in a convertible and the unforgiving head-encasement of the helmet are both hair style murderers. Warn us first to avoid up-do deaths. *Tip: if you usually drive a convertible have some scarves in the glove compartment for any lady riders.
• Our panties might show: Mini skirts, while popular in date fashion, do not mix with motorcycles. Save the panty show for the end of the date! ;-)
• We might lose our headdress: Our cute hats and hair pieces could fly away or be mushed by a helmet. Not the right kind of memory we want to make!
• Our nerves: Dates are nerve-wracking enough - especially first ones. If we haven't been on a motorcycle before it can be an exciting but scary surprise. Let us know first so we know what we're conquering that day.

Keep these tips in mind this prowling season with your fun summer-y vehicle. It could make the difference between an awesome date, and a worrisome wardrobe mishap. Warn us!

Vroooooom!!

xo

Heather

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People Pleasing and Relationships Don't Mix - Not Even for Anne Hathaway

Bending over can be sexy, but not bending over backwards.

Perhaps you have been in a relationship with someone who would sacrifice anything just to make you happy, or maybe the person going above and beyond compromising was you (or still is?). I was reminded of this type of relationship unbalance on my morning commute thanks to today's 24 Hours, the free mini-newspaper, that I grabbed on my way down the Subway.

Even celebrities can be lacking vertebrae when it comes to dating, 24 Hours told Canada this morning that Anne Hathaway was a "desperate dater" in her last relationship - which is one of the reasons why it ended.

"There's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really really good until becomes desperate..." Shared Hathaway to Harper's Bazaar Magazine.

It it can't work for Anne, there's not much hope for us commoners either. Recognize when you are trying to 'people please' your way through a relationship and don't be afraid to regain some independence.

Be true to yourself and do what you want to do. If your partner doesn't like it, they aren't for you.

xxo Heather


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5 (stop) Signs to look out for when screening online dating profiles

Online dating in Ontario can get confusing - trying to tell the real relationship possibilities from the real hustlers can take a lot of time and energy. Here are five tell-tale signs to stop wasting your time on certain online dating profile users.

1) Their handle boasts promiscuity or the fact they are meant for you
Let's face it. A guy who operates under the handle "BedTiger69" is not going to be taking anyone seriously and who knows how many he's wooed with his self-proclaimed feline sensual abilities.
Another red flag are handles like "Greatgirl4you". How does she know who you are and if she is right for you? Sounds like a gold-digger, or someone who is looking to lose herself in someone else ASAP (crazy).

2) All of their photos are only showing from the neck up and/or with a hat on
Take note when all photos of a profile are conveniently missing areas of the body.  People take a lot of care choosing the photos they want to show the world, so if you get the feeling they are hiding something, you are probably right. Excess weight and baldness are popular items to hide, so beware.

3) Profiles that resemble a thesis
If the profile has paragraphs upon paragraphs of text, the person has no idea who they are, or who they are looking for. The profile owner is confused about themselves and the potential of a relationship that they try to cover all the bases possible to either include everyone, or to exclude everyone. They are probably the type to test you on the first date to see if you read the whole profile - another elimination technique. Sail on by the essay writers.

4) People contacting you who live over an hour's drive away
They are probably cheating on someone.

5) Those who won't meet in person after e-mail exchanges/telephone conversations
Online dating is not for everyone, and it takes a certain risk-taking streak to go through with it. Some people like the idea of meeting singles online in Ontario, or in any place, but do not have the courage to actually go through with meeting in person. Do not take it personally, especially if the online/telephone conversations go well, its them, not you.

Happy online dating!

Play safe,

Heather