Bending over can be sexy, but not bending over backwards.
Perhaps you have been in a relationship with someone who would sacrifice anything just to make you happy, or maybe the person going above and beyond compromising was you (or still is?). I was reminded of this type of relationship unbalance on my morning commute thanks to today's 24 Hours, the free mini-newspaper, that I grabbed on my way down the Subway.
Even celebrities can be lacking vertebrae when it comes to dating, 24 Hours told Canada this morning that Anne Hathaway was a "desperate dater" in her last relationship - which is one of the reasons why it ended.
"There's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really really good until becomes desperate..." Shared Hathaway to Harper's Bazaar Magazine.
It it can't work for Anne, there's not much hope for us commoners either. Recognize when you are trying to 'people please' your way through a relationship and don't be afraid to regain some independence.
Be true to yourself and do what you want to do. If your partner doesn't like it, they aren't for you.
xxo Heather
online dating in Ontario
Thursday 30 June 2011
Thursday 9 June 2011
5 (stop) Signs to look out for when screening online dating profiles
Online dating in Ontario can get confusing - trying to tell the real relationship possibilities from the real hustlers can take a lot of time and energy. Here are five tell-tale signs to stop wasting your time on certain online dating profile users.
1) Their handle boasts promiscuity or the fact they are meant for you
Let's face it. A guy who operates under the handle "BedTiger69" is not going to be taking anyone seriously and who knows how many he's wooed with his self-proclaimed feline sensual abilities.
Another red flag are handles like "Greatgirl4you". How does she know who you are and if she is right for you? Sounds like a gold-digger, or someone who is looking to lose herself in someone else ASAP (crazy).
2) All of their photos are only showing from the neck up and/or with a hat on
Take note when all photos of a profile are conveniently missing areas of the body. People take a lot of care choosing the photos they want to show the world, so if you get the feeling they are hiding something, you are probably right. Excess weight and baldness are popular items to hide, so beware.
3) Profiles that resemble a thesis
If the profile has paragraphs upon paragraphs of text, the person has no idea who they are, or who they are looking for. The profile owner is confused about themselves and the potential of a relationship that they try to cover all the bases possible to either include everyone, or to exclude everyone. They are probably the type to test you on the first date to see if you read the whole profile - another elimination technique. Sail on by the essay writers.
4) People contacting you who live over an hour's drive away
They are probably cheating on someone.
5) Those who won't meet in person after e-mail exchanges/telephone conversations
Online dating is not for everyone, and it takes a certain risk-taking streak to go through with it. Some people like the idea of meeting singles online in Ontario, or in any place, but do not have the courage to actually go through with meeting in person. Do not take it personally, especially if the online/telephone conversations go well, its them, not you.
Happy online dating!
Play safe,
Heather
1) Their handle boasts promiscuity or the fact they are meant for you
Let's face it. A guy who operates under the handle "BedTiger69" is not going to be taking anyone seriously and who knows how many he's wooed with his self-proclaimed feline sensual abilities.
Another red flag are handles like "Greatgirl4you". How does she know who you are and if she is right for you? Sounds like a gold-digger, or someone who is looking to lose herself in someone else ASAP (crazy).
2) All of their photos are only showing from the neck up and/or with a hat on
Take note when all photos of a profile are conveniently missing areas of the body. People take a lot of care choosing the photos they want to show the world, so if you get the feeling they are hiding something, you are probably right. Excess weight and baldness are popular items to hide, so beware.
3) Profiles that resemble a thesis
If the profile has paragraphs upon paragraphs of text, the person has no idea who they are, or who they are looking for. The profile owner is confused about themselves and the potential of a relationship that they try to cover all the bases possible to either include everyone, or to exclude everyone. They are probably the type to test you on the first date to see if you read the whole profile - another elimination technique. Sail on by the essay writers.
4) People contacting you who live over an hour's drive away
They are probably cheating on someone.
5) Those who won't meet in person after e-mail exchanges/telephone conversations
Online dating is not for everyone, and it takes a certain risk-taking streak to go through with it. Some people like the idea of meeting singles online in Ontario, or in any place, but do not have the courage to actually go through with meeting in person. Do not take it personally, especially if the online/telephone conversations go well, its them, not you.
Happy online dating!
Play safe,
Heather
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